Is she really my best friend?

I am 32 and married and my best friend of one year is 25. We have been friends mostly over the phone, and met about once a month or coffee or lunch. We were always "just" friends, with nothing romantic/ual between us. But we did acknowledge an attraction for each other. In fact, I was a little infatuated with her and I confessed it to her. She was dating someone till a couple of months back, but now she has gone ahead and gotten married to another guy. I am not sure what to make of some things. She was always very open about about how much she liked/loved me - and said it very often - and she always talked about how I was her all-time greatest friend and one of the greatest guys she has ever known and she loved that I cared for her and how she admired me and how she always talked about me with her friends (I did not know any of her friends). But I know she used to lie to me about certain things. It also seemed to me that she tried to keep a distance from me. We did not meet very often (once a month on average), But there were a couple of times when she could have met me but still refused when I asked to meet. But she still said she missed me and loved me. In short, she was much more forthcoming about speaking her feelings than I was. She always shared everything in her life with me. I did not do the same, mostly because I talk less and dont really have anything worth "sharing". But like I said, I knew that she lied to me about certain things, and also many times tried to maintain distance. She also declined everytime I made plans for her to meet my wife. Now I'm thinking if all the nice things she said about me were true or if they were just lies. She never used me in any way, so its not like she would lie to me to keep me close to her and then use me. Now that she's married and moved to another town, we hardly talk. And I;m missing her badly. What do you guys make of this? Did she really adore/admire/love/value me as a friend, or do you think these were lies? Do you think she was attracted to me and that is why she deliberately maintained a distance from me?